You may have heard of the “law of attraction”; it says that “-whatever you think about, tends to expand!”. Thus, when you have negative thoughts you tend to attract negative outcomes, whereas positive thinking gives rise to abundance in every aspect of your life. But, is this true? Does the law of attraction really work, and if yes how?
As Bob Proctor, the well-known success coach and author says, the law of attraction is in fact the “law of vibration”, meaning that things are attracted when their “vibrations” resonate with each other. For instance, if you are thinking of your financial struggles, you tend to attract similarly-minded people to your life, with whom you may share your worries, thus reinforcing a negative thinking pattern to be reproduced, along with corresponding situations.
This a simple, yet effective, model of communication that can be applied in sales situation (convincing a client to buy your product / service) or/and in interpersonal relationships (for instance, when having an argument with your spouse…).
The first stage is called “diagnosis” and refers to our ability to comprehend the situation. You see, most people are so overwhelmed by their own problems, lost in their thoughts and concerns, that spend little or no time at all, to actually understand other peoples’ needs. This sort of “selective blindness” (or deafness if you prefer) to external stimuli, may be considered a defense mechanism, aimed at protecting us from absorbing stress coming from our environment (to put it simply, we have so much worries to deal with, that we don’t want to bother ourselves with other peoples’ problems…).
According to Charles Darwin’s theory of evolution, there is a mechanism called “natural selection” through which, the most advantageous members of species -featuring a unique variation of a trait (e.g. a special kind of wings) - can survive and grow, while the less advantageous ones tend to vanish.
Although Darwin’s theory has been disputed, the concept of evolution is widely accepted in biology as well as other scientific disciplines, as it can explain a whole lot of naturally happening phenomena. Now, take this principle (of natural selection) and transfer it to the entrepreneurial arena. Businesses which are capable of changing and adapting to competitive environments are the ones that survive and flourish.
Dear readers, quite often the various obstacles we come across in our efforts to succeed, are the result of other peoples’ influences. People in our environment, relatives, friends, schoolmates, colleagues may exert some sort of, subtle, influence on us. The eminent personal development guru, Jim Rohn said “your income is the average of the income of the 5 people you meet most frequently in your everyday life”. In a similar vein, Deepak Chopra (the well-known physician and author) said “your degree of happiness is the average of the happiness levels of the 5 most important people in your life”.
But, how does this happen?
A marketing plan is essentially the result of your answers to the following 10 questions:
In our modern life, there are a lot of things that might cause anger to us! Various incidents, people who disappoint us, the fact that we don’t like ourselves sometimes, are some of the sources leading to anger and frustration. Anger is a healthy emotion provided that it is kept within healthy boundaries… The scope of anger is to focus our attention on something important that is happening, which might be a potential threat. Thus, anger is a “red light” turned on to signal that we should protect ourselves from a dangerous situation (e.g. in case we are unfairly treated, thus it is likely we will be taken advantage of, and so on).
Yet, excessive and prolonged anger can literally destroy our life! It leads us to fight with almost everyone in the world: our friends, relatives, parents, colleagues, clients. We lose people who are valuable to us. And the most important thing is that we lose our own peace and balance, the prerequisites of our well-being.
But how can we, practically, cope with anger?